Looking good does not necessarily lead to feeling good (though I won’t deny it can help) but how many times have you met someone who oozes confidence and wellbeing regardless of how they look and you find yourself thinking ‘daaaaaaamn girl’?! That’s because feeling good can actually make you look good! Our genetics, experiences and lifestyle play a huge role in determining how we look and often this is difficult, expensive or down right impossible to change. However how we feel is well within our control. No doubt it can be extremely difficult to change how we feel but modern neuroscience teaches us that our brains are highly adaptable and we can manipulate them to view the world differently. This is how Buddhist monks use meditation to reach higher states of mindfulness. Their regular practice changes the wiring of their brain eventually Ieading to no longer having to make a conscious effort. This concept is known as neuroplasticity and you can learn about hardwiring your brain for happiness here.
In the run up to the Go! Girl workshop I would like to share with you some simple strategies I use to manage my mental health and keep thinking self-loving thoughts to wire my brain to be happy in the long term. Hopefully you will find them useful!
1. Your vibe attracts your tribe.
Yes, a trite Instagram quote it might be but when you live this quote, you really understand the power of it. Essentially, you can largely choose who you are surrounded by and who you listen to and take advice from. Choose wisely. This applies to your fitness classes. Does your instructor ever make you feel like you should be working out because you ate cake at the weekend? Well, if that doesn’t make you feel positive about yourself then maybe you should find an instructor who reminds you that you are great just the way you are and if you want to work out then it’s your choice!
2. You can manage your social media messages to help you feel good.
Again, this is simple but so many people don’t do it. You don’t need to follow ANYONE who ever makes you feel bad about how you look or are. It may be a totally unintentional message but if it doesn’t feel good to you….unfollow, mute or hide. It’s your feed and you are in control!
3. Do more of what makes you feel good.
Is this woman talking in cliché Instagram quotes?! Well, yes it appears so. However again this is such a simple strategy that so many people don’t do. What is challenging about this is when what makes you feel good isn’t what others think you should be doing. Do you get teased if you say you want an early night on a Friday because you know sleep always makes you feel good? Do people roll their eyes at the suggestion you would like to meditate or even say some positive affirmations? Is going for a run on Christmas day the most ridiculous thing anyone in your family could ever do? There are so many ways that we end up not doing the things we know will make us feel better because of other people’s judgement. Similarly, do you ever find yourself surrounded by fitness freaks and health nuts who scowl at the suggestion you might have a plate of chips for tea? Remember, doing what is right for you is kind to both you and to the people you are surrounded by. Just as those around you influence how you feel, you are influencing them too. So looking after yourself can seem selfish but really it’s not at all, your being a great role model for everyone who comes into contact with you. I’m getting déjà vu now but doesn’t your vibe attract your tribe? Oh yeah, if you do what is right for you then you stand a better chance of finding the people who will support and appreciate you for it.
Whether you choose to join me at Go! Girl HIIT Pilates or not, I hope these strategies serve as a helpful reminder that you, my friend, are great just as you are and you deserve to be happy. If you want to work out with me on November 4th then I would love to have your company. But if you’d rather stay in bed and watch the Eastenders omnibus? Well, that’s okay too 🙂
Love Lenna x