Taking stock to find space and energy.
“Nothing is quite as important as you think it is while you are thinking about it” says Daniel Kahneman. He is referring to how our brains deal with emotions and experiences better than we expect them to. We think and worry about something happening but when (or if) it does, the pain and stress are not as bad or hang around as long as we have predicted. The same is true of the other end of the experience; the build up to exciting or happy events is often as rich, or richer, than the actual event.
And yet, we think and worry about so many things at once (particularly between the ages of 30 and 50 when life is so busy) using up brain, heart, emotional and physical energy that could be put to better use. But you know this, right? The skill, or even the art, is putting each of those things into perspective; asking ourselves what’s the worst that would happen if I dropped a ball? Does this need as much energy as I am putting into it? And, how do I want to approach this? Just because we have a certain attitude to or belief attached to something doesn’t mean we have to keep working at it from that place. Separating the fact out from how we are looking at it gives us a huge scope of choice about how we can approach it. What if you stepped back and looked at it from a different point of view? What would be possible then?
It’s crucial that we come back, regularly, to what’s really important to us and what fulfils us. We get so caught up in compelling negative thoughts and what we experience as exhausting challenges in life that it is easy to lose focus on the value of some of these things, what nourishes us and that we always have the power to choose. We have the choice about what we give our energy and time to and how we give of ourselves. If we pause to be with this then we can create space and time for ourselves; we are able to live our lives rather than be pulled around by them. Coming from a place of space, fulfilment and what matters most to us, plus making sure we are nourished in life, actually gives us more energy and means that the actions we take are fewer and less draining but have more impact. We can be our own leader and have a richer, more positive experience. We can create more flow in our lives.